relationships & people

@lennysan @saylor built the most successful financial product. he is brilliant and knows more about history of technology than anyone else i know.

@pmitu the confidence he has in his taste and his ability to express what he feels

Steve was an incredible leader, innovator, and friend whose world-changing ideas moved all of us forward. Celebrating his re…

@RhysSullivan see his greatness before he does. back him before he backs himself. bet on him before he bets on himself.

best leaders are silent leaders. they don’t have to say a word. they: - have a humble approach - are open minded - listen to other people’s ideas - empower the team to plan & execute - focus on relationship building — jocko willink leadership is about building relationships. you build relationships by - trusting each other - listening to each other - respecting each other - able to influence each other - caring about each other

i have heard and seen this strategy in action from so many greats: Napoleon, Steve Jobs, James Dyson, Bill Walsh, Sid Meier, Steward Butterfield, Bruce Lee, Paul Graham, Jeff Bezos

“Jobs is an elitist who thinks most people are bozos, but he makes gadgets so easy to use that a bozo can master them. He's obsessive with a filthy temper, but he forges deep partnerships with creative geniuses like Wozniak, Jonathan Ive, and John Lasseter. He's a Buddhist and an anti-materialist, but he produces mass market products in Asian factories. And he promotes them with absolute mastery of the crassest medium, advertising. In short, Jobs has embraced the traits that some consider flaws. Narcissism, perfectionism, the desire for total control, to lead Apple and Pixar to triumph against steep odds. And in the process, he has become a self-made billionaire.” —Inside Steve's Brain

james dyson’s writing is built to last. he has an engineering-grade clarity paired with founder-level conviction. thanks @davidsenra for bringing him to thoughts. he now stands alongside steve jobs and jeff bezos in shaping how i think about craft, conviction, and building things that last.

james dyson’s writing is built to last. he has an engineering-grade clarity paired with founder-level conviction. thanks @davidsenra for bringing him to my thoughts. he now stands alongside steve jobs and jeff bezos in shaping how i think about craft, conviction, and building things that last.

@mbrandolph noted: go positive, go first. magic formula for treating others: trigger reciprocity (go positive: smile, trust…) + loss aversion avoidance (go first, avoid the fear of getting a bad reaction)

@IcyCortex fragile relationships tend to not last 😅

people are power law, and the best ones can change everything.

@IcyCortex معمولا هرکسی به من گله میکنه، با سرعت ازش دور میشم و شدت اون موضوعی که توش ازم گله شده رو چند برابر میکنم. چون گله کردن در عمق یعنی از دیگری انتظار داری که اولویت هاش رو طبق میل تو تنظیم کنه. @IcyCortex به طور تعجب آوری رابطه رو بهتر میکنه. یکم طول میکشه ولی.

defensive people are very hard to communicate with. especially if you are their leader. too much friction. draining.

how to recognize an A player? they think for themselves and act without being told what to do.

i see @naval talks, and i sense: genuinely curious. radically earnest. seriously obsessed. stubbornly determined. unreasonably ambitious. uncomfortably open-minded. endlessly creative.

steve sold to humans. bill sold to companies. steve’s genius was empathy and taste. bill’s genius was strategy and leverage. steve obsessed over design, emotion, and delight. bill excelled at systems, process and execution.

you aren't the average of the five people you spend the most time with. you're the average of the five people you spend the…

My favorite group of mentors! Steve, Jeff, Michael and Paul. Their mantras in my head? - Steve: “Focus”, “Simplify”, “Say No” - Jeff: “Internet, Shminternet”, “Bet on what doesn’t change”, “make many high reward bets”, “focus on the customer” - Michael: “Think for yourself”, “Upgrade the world”, “Bet on your conviction” - Paul: “Build what you want”, “Follow your curiosity and interest”, “Start with a small intense fire”

Masterclass: Authentic Leadership By George W. Bush 1. The art of personal diplomacy To build relationships, you need to make an effort to do so. 🧵 Sharing experiences, reaching out to somebody in need, if somebody’s hurting try to provide some comfort, listening, and making an effort to find some common ground are few ways to build relationships. Try to put people at ease in your first interaction. One way to do that is self-deprecating humor. Another way is to be genuinely interested in people and asking questions about their lives and their backgrounds. You can’t build relationships with others if you take disagreements personally. You can get insights of what people’s are focused by asking simple questions like what keeps you awake at night. 2-Look over the horizon The key thing for a chief executive is to project a vision: what is it that you want to accomplish and how you get there. A leader prioritizes what’s important. A leader sets an agenda. And agendas don’t get set by consensus often times. Obviously you need to consult with advisors and the people whom their judgement you trust, but ultimately a leader leads. It’s important for a leader to not get mired in details where you can’t think big picture. The danger for many CEOs is micromanagement. “I’m gonna decide the gym privileges that are now available for our team.” As a leader, dealing with that kind of minutia, take one’s mind off of the big picture. One of the real challenges in leading an organization is to keep the big picture in mind. A team can be disrupted if people don’t think they’ve got opportunity to visit with the team leader and share thoughts. So access to power is incredibly important in terms of building team that can work together. Organizations are stabilized when leader is willing to share credit and take blame. You gotta recognize that you are not doing things alone and when there is success you share it with your team and make it abundantly clear. If you really think about the alignment of authority and responsibility, there is only one logical conclusion: you can’t hold anybody to account unless they have the authority to accomplish that which they are responsible for. A school principal is a classic example. A school principal is responsible for the maintenance of the school and how it functions, but has no authority to hire and fire teacher or set a budget. This is a classic case of disassociating the two. So no one gets held account, which means results are diminished. 3-Building a strong team I picked people that shored up weakness. And I picked people that enhanced strengths. We wanted people who were there to serve something greater than self. Any leader must want to have people around who don’t necessarily agree. Because if you surround yourself with people who only agree with you, in an essence says, you are more important than the team. It says I’m going to have a culture based upon me. Cultures based upon individuals tend to fail. When a leader has people around who don’t necessarily agree and willing to express their opinion, it’s a sign that the leader has got the right perspective. It’s not a matter of written policy. It’s a matter of feel and the way to create a feeling of inclusiveness for the team as a leader.

@DearS_o_n - She freaked out one day after we kissed because she thought: it was sinful! Too religious I guess. - Another one: she wouldn’t let me kiss her, wouldn’t tell me how she got my number and she didn’t tell me her real name! Too religious + too private I guess

@wealth_director - A friend coming after my position after I have done a ton of favors for him. - A friend backstabbing me by sharing private info that would hurt me greatly. - A friend lying about me to get a girl he thought I liked after I passed on info to him about her past.

“Go do something great and your network will instantly emerge.” — @naval

• Be in the Right Room Your Circle is your Net Worth. If your friends are wealthy, you will be. If your friends are…